In my last article, I emphasizes that we are responsible for our own life. Our capacity to choose our own way of life will result our circumstaces. The ability to commit ourselves that we are responsible for our own life will make you feel useless with yourself.
This is true especially for myself. Lot of thing happens to me recently. My friends left me, a friend died in accident, my result go down to drain and so on. I am extremely dissapointed with myself for what happen.
I realize that I need to do something right now to greatly improve my life. I need to get out from this mess. The only way to get out from this mess is by self leadership.
What is self-leadership? Self-leadership is the capacity and commitment to take full responsibility for one's own responses to life and to create a life that is personally meaningful and fruitful. It is the antithesis of shifting responsibility for one's degree of happiness and satisfaction to others or circumstances.
It is by no means easy to exercise self-leadership. From personal experience, I know how easy it is to become stuck in blame. I know the seductiveness of victimhood. For many of us, self-leadership runs against the natural tendency of our thoughts and feelings.
Furthermore, self-leadership is, to some degree, counter-cultural. Our culture tends to be blame-oriented. I spill coffee on myself so I sue the company that brewed it. Practicing self-leadership can seem like swimming upstream.
What's more, life's circumstances frequently are difficult to change—whether it's a career that doesn't fit, a marriage that isn't working, financial difficulties, cynical colleagues, a tyrannical boss, a downturn in the economy, or a myriad other tough times.
But I realize that I need this. I must change myself to become better person. I must change how I response to be able to be happy. I must continuously growing to achieve more meaningful life. I know that only I can change my life. So are you.
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